Good riddance to 2013

As I sit here reflecting on the past year, I am thankful for so much. Most importantly, the health of my children. Many people take for granted that their children will be born without any challenges. We did not. We knew Eli would have a heart defect. We knew he had Down syndrome. We did not know the other obstacles he would eventually face. Last New Year’s I was so hopeful. I was anxiously awaiting Eli’s heart surgery. I was confident that my little boy would be fixed and we could get on with things. I thought that would be it. It’s actually a little unbelievable that I truly have that much more to be thankful for this year. A healthy heart, a seizure free brain, room for that brain to grow.

It’s amazing to think about all Eli, and his little body, went through this year. First, he conquered open heart surgery. What a trooper he was. Home from the hospital after 5 days. That was our first sign of how truly strong he is. Our little fighter.

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The next setback our sweet baby encountered was when he came down with Bronchiolitis. What a long week in the hospital that was. Thankfully, his smile kept us going each day.

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I don’t think I’ve ever felt lower than when Eli had Infantile Spasms. I felt so helpless. I took a video of his seizures so that I would have something to show the neurologist. You can hear me in the background telling him it’ll be ok and that mama is going to fix this. What you can’t hear is the terror I felt. I wasn’t sure I could fix it. I was so scared to lose my baby. I watched that video the other day. It was very hard to watch. For six weeks we saw the beautiful smile of our baby fade. He didn’t laugh. He was lost to a steroid haze.

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But, that’s not who Eli is today. He’s a healthy, happy boy who’s been seizure free for 8 months now. Thank The Lord.

When he was diagnosed with Craniosynostosis it rocked me to my core. I wasn’t sure I could sit by and let my baby take on any more. Why couldn’t he just catch a break? But, once again, he sailed through surgery and proved why he is so deserving of the moniker, Super Eli. He has the strength of a superhero for sure.

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Someone recently asked me what my wish for 2014 was. I answered that easily – I want Eli, and Cody, to stay healthy. No more surprises. We are a strong family but we would like a break. 2013 has been brutal in so many ways for us. I am very ready for it to be over. It’s been hard keeping it all together. We don’t have a lot of local support, outside of a select few people. It sucks, but it is what it is. Our saying in our house is, “We’re all we got, we’re all we need!”. We are only whole when all four of us are together. I pray we have more times together than apart in 2014.

There were some really great things that happened in 2013 too. Most importantly, Eli has a fixed heart, he easily (in the grand scheme of things) overcame Infantile Spasms, and successfully made it to the “other side” of skull surgery. He is currently healthy. He has continued to amaze his therapy team and doctors. He makes us so proud with each new skill he acquires and each milestone he hits. His brother also amazes us. Cody is smart, and funny, and so observant. The other day he actually noticed that my mom had different tires on her car. He asked her “What’s up with your wheels, Nana?”. She had her regular tires switched to snow tires. Our 3 year old noticed. Unbelievable. Cody is undeniably the most energetic in our house. He keeps us all on our toes and we wouldn’t want it any other way. He gives the best hugs and kisses and my favorite thing of all is when he grabs my hand and says, “Mommy, I love you. You’re my best friend.” Granted, he has many best friends but it’s still the sweetest thing on the planet to hear him say that!

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I “met” some of the most amazing people this year. People who will be friends for a lifetime. Some are friends from the Down syndrome community. Others are people I met because they too had a child (or grandchild) with Infantile Spasms. The newest friends are other cranio moms. They have children that have been through, or are going to have, cranio surgery. All these people get it. They get me. They don’t judge or question. They understand and empathize. It’s amazing the amount of support you can receive from virtual strangers online (and a few in person!). I have found solace and gained strength from these women (and their children) on many occasions.

2013 changed me. I once was a glass half empty kind of person. Now, remarkably, I’m a glass half full kind of gal. No matter the challenges in life, I try to see the positive – most times. I remind Chuck, when he’s feeling blah, all that we truly have to be thankful for. And on my bad days, he reminds me. Thankfully, our boys keep us smiling through it all – the good and the bad. They are our lights at the end of any tunnel.

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Thank you for loving our family. Best wishes for a healthy, and happy, 2014. Bring. It. On!

xoxo Melanie

Officially SEIZURE FREE

Eli had his follow up EEG today. His neurologist said everything looked perfect. All brain activity is normal. Woo hoo! Praise the good Lord. He will be off all medication in two weeks. There is no plans for a return visit to the neurology department unless the seizures return. Infantile Spasms can re-appear but we will remain hopeful that the seizures are a thing of the past forever…Soon to just be a distant memory. Eli is especially happy not to have to partake in any more EEG’s. He is not a fan.
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I am so thankful that this whole process was relatively easy compared to some of the horror stories I’ve heard about. Infantile Spasms are very hard to treat sometimes. We are lucky that we caught them super early, treated aggressively right away, and got the whole thing under control within 3 weeks. I give thanks to the doctors who supported us throughout this process, most notably, Eli’s pediatrician Dr. Partridge. She took me serious from the get go. I am forever grateful to have such an amazing professional support system in Eli’s corner. Go team Eli!!!

It is awesome to see him reaching so many milestones now. He rolls over from back to front and from front to back. He can sit up unassisted for a couple of seconds. He reaches up when he wants to be held. He can sit in a high chair, a Bumbo, and an activity jumper. He may be a little behind at reaching some milestones but he is catching up at record pace! He is a determined baby that is for sure. Eli also had his first taste of rice cereal on Mother’s Day. He definitely seems to enjoy it!
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Next we’ll try fun stuff like applesauce, bananas, and squash (those were Cody’s favorites)! I’m excited to have my baby back!!!

Thank you all for prayers, love, and support. This road would be a lot harder to travel without so many of you routing us on! I am so, so, so proud of our boy for getting through another challenge. He inspires us daily. As always, we are truly blessed.
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Quick update and a plethora of pictures!

Eli had his last ACTH injection yesterday! Woo hoo!!!! He has an EEG on Tuesday. Praying that the seizures are gone for good. He’s been a trooper through all of it. The appointments, the injections, the awful tasting medicines, the puffy cheeks, the insatiable appetite. He’s a rock star.
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He sat up unassisted for the first time last Wednesday. These pictures were taken after an hour of physical therapy so he’s not very happy. Daddy, Linda (his super amazing PT), and I were quite excited. Every day he amazes us.
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The beach was another truly wonderful experience. It was so nice reflecting on the past year with my baby in my arms watching his big brother and daddy play on the beach. It is exactly how I envisioned life a year ago when I fully embraced the gift of Eli and the path God had set forth for our family. Long Beach, Washington will forever be my happy place.
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Finally, Happy Mother’s Day to all the mommies out there – especially mine. You are the reason I am the mom I am. Thank you for your unwavering love, steadfast support, and constant friendship. There is nobody else in this world that I can laugh with like I laugh with you (especially at inappropriate times like the Starbucks drive thru! 😄). I love you! ❤
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Celebrating! 2 weeks seizure free, a 6 month birthday, and a 6 year wedding anniversary!

It has been two weeks since Eli’s last seizure. I am finally starting to let out the breath I’ve been holding. We started weaning him off the ACTH last Friday. His dose was drastically reduced. He was at a high dose of 0.6ml and the first stage of weaning dropped him to 0.13ml. Now he’s at 0.06ml and will go down to 0.04ml. He will be done with the weaning process next Friday. He is scheduled for a follow up EEG the following Tuesday (May 14). He never did have an EEG before starting the wean. The neurologist was confident that the EEG would look good while on the ACTH since he hadn’t had a seizure in over a week. The less EEG’s we have to do, the happier Eli will be. It’s not a fun process for him (or mommy and daddy). Thank goodness he’s a baby. This whole process would be next to impossible with our toddler.

I am also ecstatic to report that Eli’s personality is back to the happy, carefree baby he was before the seizures started. He smiles and plays and laughs and babbles. It is so wonderful to see our boy shinning brightly once again!

This past week he turned 6 months old.
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I am not sure how this has happened already. At times, it seems as though the days drag on forever (usually during a hospital stay) and other times the days, weeks, and evens months, go by at lightening speed. Crazy to think all that he’s been through in 6 short months. I’m hoping that all of the “icky stuff” (to quote my almost 3 year old) is behind us now, God willing.

Chuck and I celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary this past weekend. Our lives are certainly different than what we had planned when we first said “I do” but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Life’s challenges seem less challenging and the triumphs are more triumphant with my best friend by my side. I love this quote (by Winnie the Pooh!) – it sums up my feelings the best: “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”20130430-235622.jpg

Thank you for sharing in the love of our family, and most importantly, loving our little boy(s). ❤

One week seizure free!

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Eli has been seizure free for one whole week! He’s still not the Mr. Happy Boy he usually is, but I’ll take a few smiles and the occasional giggle over irritability and crankiness any day! It’s really interesting…He’s still on the high dose of ACTH yet he’s a totally different baby now that he’s no longer having the seizures. Leads me to believe it was the seizures causing his unpleasant behavior and not the steroids – or maybe now that the steroids are actually working the negative symptoms subside some? He does still have a very “swollen” face (known as moon face) but I think his chubby cheeks are adorable! 20130424-000821.jpg
I am so thankful that the ACTH finally started to work, just when I was ready to give up. I have read so many heartbreaking stories where the search for the right medicine(s) is exhausting and never-ending. I thought that was the road we were heading down. I truly was starting to lose hope.

Eli still has to get through the weaning process so all of your continued prayers are appreciated. He’ll have another EEG at the end of this week or early next week. If the test shows normal activity has returned to the brain, we will start the wean off the ACTH. That should take about 3 weeks. I am not sure of the maintenance plan after that. Usually, children stay on an anti-seizure drug (there is a wide range of treatment protocols as to the length of time – depends on the neurologist I guess!).

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Good news! Stopping (stopped?) the seizures – Day 14

Today I come to you with good GREAT news. Eli has not had a seizure since Tuesday night at 10pm – exactly 48 hours ago!!! I was hesitant to share this news because I didn’t want to get your hopes up but, I am going to stay positively optimistic that we have started stopping the seizures. We are nowhere near the end – yet. He will stay on the high dose of ACTH for one more week. If he stays seizure free he will have another EEG at the end of the week or beginning of the following week. If that is clear we will begin the 3 week weaning process.

I am starting to see some of his personality return. He smiles, occasionally. He giggled once yesterday. I cried tears of joy. Even if it’s just a little glimpse, I am so happy to have my baby back. He’s a little bloated and has “moon” face (puffiness from the steroids) but he’s still the cutest boy in the world to me. ❤

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your continued prayers. They are working! It is with the outpouring of love and support we’ve received from all of you that has kept us strong. We WILL beat this!!!

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